Are marriages made in heaven? Or is there a choice that is available in marriage? This article will help you increase your happiness in marriage in more than one way.
First Things First
Blessed are the one who have a happy marriage. It is the result of the merits of their past life (poorva punya) that accrued due to taking care of their spouse and keeping the spouse very happy.
Though we have discussed a lot on horoscope matching, let me tell you one thing. The cause of happiness in marriage is not horoscope matching, it is poorvapunya (merits of past life). Similarly the cause of unhappiness in marriage is not because horoscope matching was not done.
Horoscope matching is an attempt to improve your score with regard to happiness in marriage. If the horoscope indicated only 60% happiness then by horoscope matching it can be improved to 80%. If the original score was say only 30% then by horoscope matching it can be improved to about 50%.
The Singles Game and Doubles Game
If you play a game like badminton or tennis you will easily understand what I am trying to say. When you play a singles game the score in the game is directly proportional to your talents. When you play a doubles game, meaning if you have a partner with you then the score obtained in the game is not just based on your talent. If your partner is not compatible to you then your game suffers a lot. You wish that you had a better partner. Have you had this experience I am talking about? As long as you are unmarried only your horoscope matters. Once you are married the other person will start influencing you in certain areas that are being shared by both of you. A game is played only for a few hours. The game of marriage is to be played for a long time.
Maharshi Parasara says that a person will have a happy marriage if the the 7th house lord is in its own house or is exalted (Utcha Rasi).
The great sage also says that if the lord of the 7th house is in the 6th house or 8th house or the 12th house and is not in the sign of exaltation then there will be trouble in marriage because of various reasons and especially health related matters. Health problems to the spouse may lead to death and subsequently there arises the need for a second marriage. From my experience I found that the 7th house lord in the 6th troubles marriage more than the 7th house lord in the 8th house or 12th house. The reason for this is that the 6th house is the house of enemies.
In case Venus occupies the 7th house then the person is likely to be lustful. However lust may not mean only sexual desires it may include all forms of lust. One more fact about Venus is that whenever Venus is very close to a natural malefic then it indicates a troubled marriage.If Venus is close to Saturn or strongly influenced by Saturn then late marriage is indicate. In such cases an early marriage may indicate troubled marriage.
If the 7th house lord is strong, well placed and is with benefic planets and not influenced by malefic planets then such a person will be wealthy, honourable and experience all round prosperity that includes a happy marriage.
If the 7th house lord is weak, badly placed and is with malefic planets and not influenced by benefic planets then such a person will experience trouble in marriage.
If the 7th house lord in the sign of exaltation and the 7th house is occupied by a benefic planet and the strong Lagna Lord (Ascendant Lord) is placed in the 7th house, the spouse will be endowed with virtues and by the birth of sons and grandsons the dynasty will grow.
If the 7th house and its lord be in conjunction with malefic planets there may be loss of spouse more so if the 7th house and the 7th house lord is lacking strength.
Loss of spouse is indicated in case the 7th house lord that is weak is also placed in a dushthana which is the 6th house or the 8th house or the 12th house or the 7th house lord is also debilitated.
The marriage is short-lived whenever Mars is in the 6th house and also Rahu is in the 7th house and Saturn is in the 8th house. In this combination you see that the 7th house is bracketed by 2 malefics, Kuja and Sani (ie Mars and Saturn).
In case there are indications of troubled marriage then horoscope matching is to be done prior to marriage as an attempt to reduce the possibilities of a divorce that is the result of a troubled marriage. Despite horoscope matching there will be trouble on and off as part of Karma but at least divorce may be prevented. In old age the combination will finally work when there is separation due to death of the spouse.
The 4 tests in horoscope matching
Marriages are not made in heaven as it is generally made out to be. In India, most people believe that you get married to a person already ordained for you by the Gods or heavens and that you really have no choice in that. If you believe in this then the process of horoscope matching makes no meaning at all. Is it not?
- Nakshatra Match (Star Match)
- Kuja Dosha Check (Mangal Dosha)
- Dasha Sandhi
- Dosha Saamyam
In most parts of India the 1st test is also misunderstood as horoscope matching. The match points is given out of a total 36 points and if you get 18 or more the star match is good. However to know the result of this test you need not use the horoscope. You just need the star and rasi of both the bride and the bridegroom. People do this and claim that the horoscopes have matched when they actually mean to say that stars have matched. This is the basic match point.
If the score is less than 18 it is better not to proceed to the next 3 tests.
Kuja Dosha is a very serious test. Maharshi Parasara says that if the person having Kuja Dosha marries a person not having Kuja Dosha then death is the outcome. The affected party is the person not having the dosha. In ancient times divorce was not in practice and therefore death was the only way by which the separation happened. Today it is not only death but also divorce. However in my years of experience I have actually noted in many cases that death did happen within a period of 1 year.
The main problem in love marriage
Love marriage in India means the opposite of arranged marriage. In most countries there is no arranged marriage at all. Love marriage in India usually means that the couple who get married give a lot of trouble and anxiety to parents because they do something that is unconventional. Whatever be the difference between love marriage and arranged marriage the main problem in love marriage is that horoscope matching is not possible in a love marriage.
Buddhih Karma Anusarini – meaning the mind will work in accordance to Karma. So during a love affair destiny plays a greater role because the choice of the lover is by the person (his or her mind) and there is no guide or guru to advise what is best for a particular person. In a love affair there is less choice than in an arranged marriage because the bride or the bridegroom can choose say 1 out of 10 or even 1 person out of 100.
The chances for mistake is higher when you choose 1 person out of 1 person. It may be a hit or miss case. There is no way to find out how the marriage will turn out to be. Whereas in an arranged marriage there are so many advantages. The time tested horoscope matching ideas can be utilized while selecting the bride or bridegroom. This cannot be used in love marriage.
My observation is: In case of love marriage, if a person has putra dosha the karmic tendency is to love and then marry a person also having putra dosha. This is how karma works.
Sometimes marriages fail despite horoscope matching. The reasons are 1) the Astrologer who did the horoscope matching was not an expert or he made a mistake while judging the compatibility. 2) the birth data used in the horoscopes were wrong. It happens either deliberately or unintentionally.
However my observation is that in most cases horoscope matching has been very useful. 80% of the marriages that went through the process of horoscope matching has succeeded, whereas the success of love marriage as per the records in my office are almost 50-50.
When you want to buy a mobile you just don’t buy it because you fell in love with it. You do a lot of research like specifications and strength and weakness study of the product. The mobile lasts only 2 years. For marriage that should last a life time, is not horoscope matching a safe bet?
The problem is not over even if we accept that horoscope matching helps save marriages. The real problem is that we need to know more clearly on how to match horoscopes. More research is surely needed in this area. A standardized approach is necessary.
Beware of most Nadi centres
In many Nadi centres as told to me by many of my clients, they have told certain people that they will get married to person whose name starts with “S” for example. The belief in Nadi readers is so much in Tamilnadu that they wait until they get an alliance where the name of the person starts with “S” and once they find such a person without considering anything else they get married. Later on due to incompatibility the marriage fails and ends in divorce etc. When I asked them did the Nadi readers also tell them about the divorce that happened later on they say “no”.
A very bad Muhurta for marriage
Another leading cause of troubled marriage is a wrong muhurta. A wrong time for marriage is by itself a bad thing to happen. Something well begun is half done. I know a couple who married during ATIGANDA Yoga, during the Janma Nakshatra of the Bride, during a VISHTI KARANA, the muhurta horoscope having bad planets in the 12th house (bhava) and bad planets in the 7th house. The marriage is on the verge of divorce.
A marriage breaks during a bad dasha and bhukti
In case of incompatible horoscopes, the marriage tends to break during the most challenging dasha (major planetary period) and bhukti (minor planetary period).
If you anticipate this period and do the appropriate remedies and do astrological counselling saying that the the period will be tough and they need to put up with it somehow then the couple can cross over the breaking point in their life.
Examine the 7th house of both the bride and bridegroom before engagement
The 7th house is the house of marriage. Trouble in marriage is strongly indicated in case the 7th house lord is in the 6th, or 8th or the 12th house. In face the 6th house is the most negative house as it is the 12th house (loss) from the 7th house.
Also check which planet occupies the 7th house. If the 6th house lord occupies the 7th house then also divorce is a strong possibility.
If you see the exchange of houses between the 7th house and the 6th house then the troubled marriage is almost 80% fated to happen. In such cases horoscope matching is only an effort to save the marriage.
If the lord of the 6th house and the 7th house combine and then occupy the 1st house or the 7th house then also one must except serious trouble in marriage.
If natural malefics like Sun, Saturn, Mars, Rahu and Ketu are in the 7th house then one must expect trouble in marriage.
Have an eye on the Navamsa Chart – sometimes the Navamsa Chart gives more clues than the Rasi Chart.
Check out the UPAPADA Lagna
The UPAPADA is the Arudha Pada of the 12th house. There are many rules laid out on how to interpret the UPAPADA Lagna. Many Astrologers ignore this and give wrong readings.
2nd Marriage combination
2nd marriage can happen due to an extraordinary strength of the 7th house lord and it can also happen due to the extraordinary weakness of the 7th house lord.
The difference is that in the 1st case, the person will have many partners in life and enjoy all of them without any problem. In India despite the law there are people who boldly disclose that they are 3 times married and yet get away
In case of divorce, the usual question is whether the 2nd marriage is indicated.Whenever the 2nd marriage is indicated then it is always a threat that there is a threat on the 1st marriage. Such people should be extra careful while matching horoscopes for their 1st marriage.
In case the divorce has already happened, then the presence of planetary combinations indicating the 2nd marriage is good news.
Let me tell you that there are no special combinatios that reveal 3 marriages or 4 marriages etc. There are only 3 main types. 1. NO marriage, 2. ONE marriage. 3. TWO or more than Two marriages. I heard of a person who married about 60 times.
The truth about 2 marriages etc is that it may include the possibility of extra marital affairs or premarital affairs. If you are professional Astrologer you will get confused if your client does not reveal all this to you. In case the affair is over, then the threat for another affair decreases.
More than 1 marriage or extra marital affairs due to lord of a house in a particular house.
If the lord of the 1st house is in the 1st house, 3rd house, 8th house and 11th house
If the 2nd lord is in 2nd house, 7th house and 10th house.
If the 3rd house lord is in the 2nd house.
If the lord of the 6th house is in the 8th house,
If the 7th house lord is in the 1st house, 2nd house or 9th house.
If the 8th house lord is in the 7th house.
If the 11th house lord is in the 12th house.
If the 12th house lord is in the 6th house.
Know more about marriage from your Navamsa
The navamsa chart is packed with information. However the best use of a Navamsa is for gaining more information in marriage. The lagna and the 7th house house are very important houses in the Navamsa Chart.
Warning: Never use the Navamsa without the Rasi Chart, the Bhava Chart. Use the Navamsa to reconfirm what is found in the Rasi Chart and Bhava Chart.
For example if the 7th house lord is in the 6th house in the Bhava Chart and then you also see in the Navamsa Chart the 7th lord is in the 6th house then the planets are indicating serious trouble in marriage.
The risk in using a Navamsa chart is that the Lagna (Ascendant) in the Navamsa Chart will shift its position every 12 to 15 minutes. So it is sensitive to time of birth. Accuracy of the time of birth is very important when you start using the divisional charts. The divisional charts are like surgery. You can produce very good results through surgery and also kill the patient immediately.
In my experience I have always noticed that the planets that start the trouble in marriage are usually in the 6th house in the navamsa chart, or the 8th house or the 12th house. In many cases, the Navamsa Lagna Lord was in the 6th, 8th and 12th house.